My journey in this life time

I’ve been reflecting on my life so far—its different chapters, challenges, travels, and ventures. I’ve looked back at the men who have been part of my journey, and how my relationships with them have helped me grow and understand myself better. This blog is mainly for myself—to honor all the men in my life so far and to fill them with gratitude.

MY DAD – Papa

You can refer to my other blog, My Dad is Peter Pan

I’m truly grateful that my dad has been such a positive and stabilizing presence in my life—offering security and safety. He was also incredibly artistic and showed me the importance of doing what makes you happy. He was an amazing cook, dancer, supporter and inspiration. He even made the best playlists ever. He set the bar high as the first male figure in my life, that’s for sure.

We’re currently collecting all his favorite songs to make a Spotify playlist called « Pepito » on my Spotify account, saradiblasii.

When my dad started to be more deep into the dementia, I reached out to my godfather Roberto and shared my need for a masculine older figure. I wrote him a letter, I felt like I needed to verbalize that this might be something that I will lack and talk in therapy if I don’t ask and act on it. He showed up right away, has been a great help and support, a source of safety and accountability in the past year. He was there when I was little and is back for us when we need him the most today.

My brother – Thierry – AKA Tii

My oldest memories of my brother are, of course, filled with playing and fighting together. He was a scratcher; I was a biter. I remember taking care of him when he was very little. We have so many videos of us in the bath, naked in the courtyard, and me covering him with a blanket. I also recall all our camping trips, like chasing frogs (“tetards”) in my grandfather’s lake. He was my adventure partner for a long time. We played playstation a lot and did many road trips together—going to Cape Cod, Provincetown, and Florida. Bicycles, babyfoot, beaches, campings, cabins, smoking joints hiding with our friends…. so many!

As a teenager, we were close to the family but not that close to each other. It was just a natural dynamic, even though I wished we were closer. I respected the space he needed at that time. As we got older and my dad started to lose his memory, we grew even closer. We became partners in this journey—a sense of security and the best team you could ask for. I’ve found a kind of magical wisdom in him the more we walk together.

We’ve faced some very tough conversations, cried a lot together, and started doing more things as a family—like our trip to Rome. That was epic! We share a similar sense of humor, sarcasm, passion for food and experiences. We both take charge when needed, but also follow each other’s lead. My brother always told me, “If you’re tight financially, never cut on your food quality… never.” That advice has stayed with me through tough seasons and life transitions. He always tells me, » I don’t want to you worry about money » just like my dad. My only wish is that he doesn’t take responsibility and pressure on himself for it.

He inspires me to make things happen, to organize more and think bigger. He’s become a big brother at times even though he’s younger in many ways. I still think I’m the wiser… just joking, bro!

I deeply respect his emotional intelligence. I’m still getting to know him more and more, but that’s one of his qualities that impresses me the most. He has incredible emotional wisdom; he’s like a silent wizard. He’s compassionate and able to put himself in others’ shoes. He has a lot of patience for love (not for stupidity, though, hahaha). Over the years, he’s been building his empire and becoming quite opportunistic—I respect that so much. It takes courage to create your own reality outside the box, without knowing the outcome. Bro, you were right, you didn’t need the school’s system to teach you how to make it happen!

I look forward to more travels and adventures together. Today, I honor him and feel so grateful to have chosen him as my brother in this life. Here’s to us continuing to grow and co-create forever.

My first Love – Mitch

I remember that looking back, that’s the first manifestation I started to do without knowing. I just saw him walking at school, not knowing at all who he was and it was clear. I was in the bus many times listening to music and imagination him talking to me.. just thinking about it.. it’s crazy. BIG manifester at 18 years old.

To have him notice me lol… I even went to smoke a cigarette outside (I was not a smoker, but I noticed he was there at the time always outside) I had a gym class, so I basiquely had to run to the bathroom after that smoke and arrived late to class since I never had coffee and smoke before – VERY EFFICIENT ahahah But it worked, we spoke for the first time there.

I was 18, very virgin (YESS true fact)

I never had a partner before, never felt in love as well. I didn’t knew him at all, but It was clear for me… it was him.

We were together for 3 years! How crazy.

COMMITMENT

He was ready, he was allllllllllll in! For the appartement, the dog, the house, the family… I could feel that he was on a long term plan. I was starting to live my life, my freedom after high school with bullying and hard chapters. I was ready to travel the world, to explore myself, to discover the woman in me. I got scared big time unconsciously at that time. I always felt like a little girl, a little princess next to him with was amazing as a first relationship. I saw him with much more experiences and I felt like I needed to develop my femenity, my sexuality and my confidence before signing up for any long term packages. I wished for another timing for so long.

He really wanted to work on our relationship and our problems, I didn’t have the maturity yet to do that and be invested.

This relationship really made me realize the importance of investing ourself in a partnership, a part of me lived a lot of regret towards leaving him. It helped me much later to not give up too fast and to work as a couple with Damian for example, so for that I will be forever grateful.

SAFETY

Mitch also made me feel very safe, I felt like I was the one and he would never leave me. I felt complete trust with him, it just felt right. I just knew that I could rely on him and he would come for me anywhere and fight for me. It was so strong that I alsoI missed that kind of safety in my futur relationship. Crazy that this first relationship brought so much safety… again he also did put the standard high.

Still processing this relationship since almost 20 years… not done yet I guess.

My friend – Antoine

Ahhhhh Antoine! That was a lot of fun! We met at Houston Laval working both there. His humour and confidence just charmed me by surprise. He was the first travel partner I had, Thailand Here we go!!!!

Antoine made me realize that, traveling with someone, it’s a « Hit or Miss » test. We clearly did miss it ahahah We were just not at a good place together. Today looking back We had a lot of good moments and we are able to laugh about it. We are still friends today, thank you Antoine for still being part of my life.

1 year and a half of ice skating, karaoke, games, listening to music, doing nothing, so much creativity and imagination. A millions Chalet, Games, and gathering with our coworkers, dancing, filming and spending time with my family. It was a really good year with a lot of learning, laughters and too much Jameson.

It’s the first time I felt some insecurity from a partner. I was not equipped to navigate this at that time and our relation ended pretty fast, maybe a bit brutal as well. I realized quickly that I missed him as a friend so much after we separated. Took couples of years to grieve and grow to find him again as a friend.

KINDNESS

Antoine has a very big heart, he loves to help and be at service. I was very touch by his participation and relationship with my parents when we reconnected. He spent a lot of time with them, without me being in the country. He went to help planting at the house, brought them to picnic, was passing to grab coffee. He even invited them to his appartement for one night as well…. I will forever be grateful for those gestures. He showed up with a pure heart and his time, with is the most valuable currency. Thank you so much.

GUILT

I felt bad leaving both of them. The feeling of hurting someone was really hard on me. Also I always wanted to keep seeing them, I still loved and still love them. I tough many time how we underestimate the position of someone making that decision of cutting the relation, how hard it can be. I got a bit scared after that to fall in love and hurt or loose someone else.

A DOOR CLOSE, ANOTHER OPEN…

My business partner – Damian

Woowwwww Where to start haha!

This is a Huge chapter of my life. Damian came in a very important transition and process of change for me. How did we meet? The question we are been ask a lot, and we love to share because it’s pretty funny.

HOW ME MET

If you read the blog about « Boha my first baby » you know that Vanessa Vieira is part of this, such as Maude Iralde.

Everything started at an innocent girls brunch, Vanessa told me that she had saw this proposal of friend for her on Facebook « Damian Sansoni » and the only common friend was me. She was like; « Who is this guys, if I was single I would write to him, why do you know him, why are you not in contact with him? » I told her: » I lost control on my Facebook a while ago, I have no idea why we are friends »

She basically took my phone and sent this realllllly forward kitch dating message from my phone to him ( I had to find this message again)

Sara ( AKA Vanessa): Hi, my business partner brought my attention to you because she finds you sexy. I told myself i had you write you because shes taken but im not. I had to take a chance. No idea how we are connected on Facebook but im Glad haha

Damian: Hi! Nice to meet you! Let’s stay connected! Have a beautiful day! (With a GIF of a wave moving)

ONE THING LEADS TO ANOTHER

Move forward 7 months, I moved to Mexico

Move another couples of months, we are partner

Move couples of months forward, we start retreats together

More couples of week after we start the Aguahara training

Next year we have our baby Watertherapy.mx

Between travels through Canada, Ecuador, Nicaragua, Argentina, we create events and build communities. Damian Joins Boha Family and meet officially Vanessa for quite a ride.

VALUES

I always felt like we wanted to go in the same direction. It’s like if we both wanted the same thing. Lead retreats, create events, learn, move, travel for work and pleasure. It felt inspiring to move forward with someone that wants a similar lifestyle. Everything felt aline.

DUALITY

We are the opposite in so many ways, it’s impressive.

Even our names: Damian Sansoni & Sara Di Blasio DS/SD. His mom and my dad with Alzeimer, we did found confort and support in each other in those hardships moments.

He loves water, I was afraid of it. I love Air and he fear it.

Literally, everything I was not eating, he was eating everyday. We operate completely different which became very hard as a couple, BUT dammmmm we create magic together. I realize that there is a fine line between complementary and opposite.

FAMILY

Damian has been an incredible support for my family. He was taking a lot of time alone with my dad, walking with him, making breathing exercises, going for coffee and to the beach. It was natural for him to communicate with him without that many words. Not everyone was confortable with my dad’s restrictions to talk and mood swing. When he was with Damian, I felt safe. It’s incredible how my dad today points often the pictures of Damian on his wall. He cries every time we video call with him.

Damian and my mom are like kids togheter, they pick on each other all the times. The dynamics has been very cute to watch.

PRESENCE

Damian has a presence, when he is there… he’s there fully. I realize that this is not given to everyone, to be present. That has made him a beautiful space holder and facilitator with the retreats and watertherapy. I sure want this is my next relationships and really hope for everyone to experience this at some point.

ANIMAL LOVER

I never met someone that loves animals more than me. Damian is so connected with animals, he touched me with that for sure. He took so much care of my cats, Boris and every singles animal that crosses his path. He would protect any animal in the streets if needed. I honor him for that and thank him. Not everyone would have tried to resuscitate with a mouth to mouth attempt, I will remember that for the rest of my life.

DISCIPLINE

I never had a very good daily discipline in my life… like really committing to do something everyday… ouff, not my strength. I was amaze by the routine and commitment of Damian. It was quite unusual for me to witness it, but it showed me how if you really do a little everyday, with time, it pays off.

COMPLEMENTS

There is fine like between complementary and opposite.

Damian and I have been working on our dynamics for 4 years. We are Baby Watertherapy we both want to find a way to not want to kill each other a little bit everyday haha It really feels like we are working trough a divorce and trying to save our family in the process. Watertherapy is bigger than ourself, it’s a mission for us, it’s a devotion and life path. Our goal it to create a collective around it because we are always better in groups togheter. It feels like this projects was always met to be bigger than us.

It’s an honor for me to walk along him with it.

For all this masculine in my life so far, I saw THANK YOU

I LOVE YOU ALL